“You keep saying that you have a dream of writing a book some day, but how do you plan to get there if you aren’t practicing your writing now?” These are the words that keep running through my mind since a recent session with a life coach. That’s right folks, a life coach. Part of what I like to refer to as my ‘teetering on the edge of a mid-life crisis’ involved stepping way outside of my comfort zone and making a call to a coach.
This wasn’t anything that I ever thought I would do, in fact, it isn’t even anything that I really thought existed in such a capacity. Sure, I’d heard of life coaches, but in my mind they were all 1980s new age hippie types wearing pastel colors and spreading flowery language with their sing-song voices. Until about 6 months ago, I didn’t realize that the world of coaching was so expansive, and quite frankly, so incredibly beneficial. Now I must apologize to coaches everywhere for my serious misconceptions because my experience has been…well, life changing.
Being faced with mid-life, it’s common for women to feel stuck, that they are missing something, or that there must be some greater purpose they should be pursuing. Life is short, and at around age 40, that becomes all too clear. For me, it was turning 42 last year. Any Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy fans will appreciate that I refer to this age as my “answer to the ultimate question of life, the universe, everything.” It was gradually building, this feeling of being stuck on a perpetual hamster wheel with no way to move forward. Then one morning I heard a women’s life coach on a radio program that I listen to. A light went on inside of me, and it has only grown brighter since taking the chance to pick up the phone that day.
The process is still very much underway, but a tremendous shift has taken place and I have clarity unlike any that I’ve experienced before. Instead of staying stuck and feeling grumpy about things, I am shifting. I have direction, I am making choices, I am excited about what lies ahead, and I am writing. While a book may or may not come one day, what’s most important now is that I am making changes and taking action on my passions. This has been nothing short of incredible for my outlook and well being.
If you find yourself feeling stuck in your career, your home life, or just in general, know that you are not alone. It happens far more often than you might realize. The important thing is to know that you can choose to do something about it, and then go out and do it. A little guidance on this journey is never a bad thing, either. Hire a coach, see a therapist, join a support group, read some books – do what works best for you, but make the commitment. You will be glad that you did.
As an aside, thank you for following along on this new space of mine. I’ve only just started to build it, but I do hope you return.